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DATING SECRETS

How to meet men and women is made easy here. Must read tips for single men and women who want to find a relationship for fun or will lead to marriage.

DATING 101 
 
Whether you are single and never been married, divorced or widowed being alone is challenging. It is in our DNA to partner. Science has shown that women, and men especially, benefit with better healthdating over 50
happiness and longer life-spans when they are married.
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That doesn't mean that you can't be happy if you find yourself single. However if dating over 50 is in your sights and you haven't had success in dating lately you might want
to re-think what you have been doing in the past. 
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There are courses on how to "date" beautiful women, or how to find the perfect man but first start off by learning a little more about what you want to accomplish in the dating scene.
 
We all know that sexual attraction is important. But recognize that there are other facets to a relationship
that will either build on that first date or destroy any chance of a relationship.
 
Dating for the sake of conquest is different than looking for a good mate.
 
Jumping into bed with someone too soon may be the sexy thing to do in movies however it isn't the best thing to do if you are searching for a life partner. In the beginning use your evaluative skills and your
head before you find yourself too emotionally involved. If you have sex too early it can muddle your mind. You may want to believe you're in love because you are already intimate when love is the last thing going on.
 
The first step to finding a great match for you is to find out who you are today, not who you were 20 or 30 years ago because we change over time.
 
What things are important to you now and how do you want to live your retirement life? Your answers will help you choose a great partner. Here are a few things to consider but not the only ones: Are you a home-body or do you want to travel? Is religion important to you? Do you have hobbies or activities you enjoy, or would enjoy learning? What about money? Are you a saver or a spender? How will family impact a new relationship? Are you a very social person or are you more comfortable with a few good friends? Do you like animals? Is a clean house important?
 
Dating is a time to get to know a person, and to discover what is important to you in a partner. But first, be honest about why you are dating. Are you looking to "date" and have sex with many people you meet? Or are you looking to find someone you can share your life with?
 
If you are interested in just dating beautiful women or hot men, and having many sexual partners it's relatively easy. There are tons of online dating sites and sites where you can place personal adds that have people looking for a quick hook-up. Finding someone to build a lasting relationship with is more challenging and in most experts' opinions also more rewarding. (article continues below)
 

 
What kind of qualities do you bring to the table? Determining who you are and what qualities you offer is a great exercise. I'm sure you have great things about you that you may not even be aware of so ask yourself some of these questions. There are no wrong answers, and there are more you can ask that aren't here: Are you a great friend? Are you honest? Are you a good cook? Are you open to new things? Do you handle money well? Are you sensitive or analytical?  Are you goal oriented or laid back? Are you a quiet person or the life of the party? Do you forgive easily? Do you have a good sense of humor? Are you a good conversationalist? Are you hard working? Do you have a few things, or one thing that you do well? Are you supportive? Are you a take charge kind of person? Do you always follow through? Can you make decisions? Do you love to travel and explore new places?  You get the idea here.
 
What kind of person are you drawn to? It's a known fact that men make decisions about a woman in less than 30 seconds. It takes women longer...weeks or sometimes months. Setting that statistic aside, is the person you are drawn to someone that makes you a better person or does that personality type hurt or make you crazy after awhile?  A common misconception is that opposites make good mates. Shy woman marries outgoing guy. Woman spends money while the man wants to save money. He loves to travel but she wants to stay home. In reality most successful relationships, opposites don't always make the best mates. People who have things in common, similar personalities who have many of the same goals in life and genuinely like being together seem to stand the test of time.
 
Now lets talk about interests and activities. What kind of things do you like to do when you have time to relax? Do you love golf, tennis, surfing etc.? Or do you prefer to curl up and read a book? While it is good to enjoy activities together, it is also healthy to participate in hobbies and activities on your own. The important thing here is to have an interest in a few things that make you happy. If you love to ride a dirt bike it's okay to go alone. Find someone who likes to do things together and who also has their own interests.
 
 
Compromise. When you are making your list of what your desired mate should have,  rank where they are on your list. Integrity or religion may rank high while being athletic or height may not. For instance, M. thinks that his perfect woman has to have a great sense of humor and make him laugh. Farther down the list is love of travel. If she has a great sense of humor and most of the other characteristics etc that are on his list, he needs to make a decision early on if her not liking to travel is that important.


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 PREPARING YOURSELF TO ASK FOR A DATE

 

Everything we do starts with being prepared, and dating is no different. If you are prepared with the tips below your chances of getting dates with great women increase ten- fold.

Typically men and women date people who are similar to them in looks, confidence, economic status, religious beliefs and values. Keeping that in mind, look for someone you are attracted to physically. They don’t have to be the most beautiful or handsome person in the room to make them attractive to you.

You only get one chance to make a first impression. Your personal hygiene should be impeccable, from brushing your teeth and using mouthwash, showering, shaving, using cologne to clean and cut nails and toenails. Find a good hairstyle that suits your face and age and you need to wear clean clothing that has been ironed whenever you leave home.

Now that you know how important personal hygiene and the proper way to dress is, let’s concentrate on how to conduct yourself in the dating scene.

Work on your body language. You don’t want to appear aggressive (unless you’re looking for a biker chick). Be open, at ease and friendly. Start a pleasant conversation and make them feel comfortable.

Have a few topics that you can talk comfortably about. Have a few questions on the tip of your tongue that you can ask to get the ball rolling. Ask what hobbies or activities the person is interested in or where their favorite place is to vacation. These topics should be non-threatening and non-confrontational. Practice makes perfect, so know what you are going to say and get out there and start talking to the opposite sex.

Be open and approachable. Although men are still generally the ones asking women out, women are becoming bolder about asking for a date. Make it easier for women to come up to you by looking open and friendly.  Pay attention to what is going on around you. If you’re sitting at Barnes and Nobel, or Starbucks having coffee and reading a periodical be sure you look up once in a while and glance around the room. Always sit with good posture instead of slouching as you read. Offer up short, friendly smiles to people who look your way. However, do not linger unless you are interested in a particular woman and she is holding her gaze on you. If not, look away and check back to see if she’s looking again.

Always be a Gentleman. While some younger women today don’t like chivalrous men, the majority of women really do appreciate men who have great manners.  Do not be overly familiar or too casual with women you have just met. Focus on being friendly first. Incorporate things into your dating bag of skills like pulling out chairs for women or holding a door open for them. Offer appropriate compliments. Walk on the outside of the sidewalk. All the things you were taught to do growing up.

Once you’re out there, flirt. Use your whole body! If you are talking with someone and want them to know that you're interested, lean towards them when you are talking and look them in the eye. Eye contact is very important when dating or trying to get the date, but it must be done properly.  Too little eye contact will make a person think you aren’t that interested in them, while staring too intensely can be threatening and even a little creepy.

Making a date is like any interview. Dress to get the job, or in this case the date!

 What makes a successful date? Fun Ideas

If you want success in dating, whether you are in a long time relationship or just getting to know one another, having creative, fun date ideas will win points for you. Dating can be a lot more than just dinner and or a movie. Get to know the other person doing interesting things that won't break the bank with these top ideas for great dates.

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WHY MANY MEN PREFER OLDER WOMEN
 
A mature woman isn't constantly asking you what you're thinking. She doesn't care what you think. She has her own thoughts.

If a woman over 50 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She gets up and does something she wants to do and it's usually very interesting.

Women over 50 are dignified. They aren't likely to start a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant like younger women.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved.
Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 50 is far sexier than a younger version and chances are she has more pride in her appearance. You don't see these women running around in their pajamas at the mall!
 
Older women are forthright and honest.. They don't play games like so many younger women do.
 
You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her.
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WHERE ARE THE WOMEN?
 
Where are you going to find people you want to date? Open yourself to places you hadn't thought of before. If you have a hobby find clubs that cater to people with your same interest. If you have a group of friends, throw a barbecue and tell everyone to invite another single friend (even the married friends you have know people who are single). Sign up for a dating site (if you are looking for a real relationship make sure it isn't known as a hook-up site). Attend openings, visit open air art fairs or concerts. If you go to a church, go to singles events. Smile at people in an elevator. If they seem receptive, ask a question and get the conversation rolling. Talk to people wherever you go. In short, get out there. When someone invites you to a party...go! You may not meet the person of your dreams there, but you may make a friend who does know him/her.
 

Men looking to ‘hook up’ for an evening head to a bar. But most women are wary about handing out their real phone numbers to men who approach them in those places because they know that guys who frequent bars don’t make good mates…unless that’s all they want and chances are she’ll leave with you that night. Beware of these people, males and females. STD’s are rampant.

For the rest of you here are the best places to meet other people…a potential date. But before you head out, there are some rules:

Whenever you go outside, even if it’s just to put gas in your car, dress in clean clothes, have your hair and teeth brushed, shave and put on cologne and deodorant.

Now, try some of these ideas instead of a bar:

Sign up for Cooking Classes. Women are more relaxed in a kitchen and more likely to be relaxed. A simulated kitchen can also be very sensual.  Not convinced? Think about feeding each other what you make. And, women find men sexy when they cook. (They also think men with tool belts are sexy)

Art Galleries and Museums are another great place to meet women. It is one of the places women go to get their culture fix, and they tend to be more open if you lead with an observation about a painting, or sculpture. If you find a woman here, chances are she will know more than a bit about art so don’t say something stupid. Take an art appreciation class first. It will be a great way to get an introduction to the arts…and another place to meet women, as they have a higher attendance rate than men.

Talk to women in the Grocery Store.  You can ask questions about produce or cuts of meat, where to find the cleaning products and which ones work best for starters. These are non-threatening topics that can lead to a quick conversation.

Browse the hardware store. You’ll be in your element here and a lot of single women actually go to hardware stores.  They may ask you questions about different products or tools and you can offer assistance if someone looks lost or confused.

Bookstores and video stores are great places to meet single women. Try the romantic comedy aisle in the video store, or romance and mystery in the bookstore. If an attractive woman is looking at Jazz, Country, Classical or other CD sections and you happen to like the same kind of music this is another place to start a conversation.

Just like sales, you have to close the deal. Once you have found some things in common and you feel there might be some chemistry flowing, or she looks receptive, ask her for her number or card.

 

ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS ASK?

If you have read the other articles on this page you are now ready to ask for a date. But, don’t ever use cheesy pick-up lines. They’ve heard them all before anyway and it makes you look tacky. Any woman you might be interested in will shoot you down before you get out of the gate. The only women you might attract are one-night-stand kind of women, if that.

A first date is kind of a get to see if we want to know one another thing.  Don’t make it sound either romantic or too casual.  Be sincere when you ask for a date saying something like, “I hope this isn't too forward, but would you like to have coffee together sometime?”  

It might sound like a cliché, but women like to feel safe.  "It’s just coffee" means you’ll be in public and even if she doesn’t like you she can leave in fifteen minutes or a half hour. If you ask for something as non-committal as this, it's more probable that you will get a yes to your request.  When you do go for coffee, you can both have a chance make an even better impression because you’ll have some time to get to know one another. If you are both still interested you can call and make another date.

Laziness will kill the deal for any woman worth her salt. Make sure your apartment is welcoming, neat and clean at all times even before you have a date. It will make you feel better about yourself, and you want to leave a pleasant lasting impression if your date wants to see where you live.

If you aren’t having any luck meeting women the normal way, try some Dating Agencies. Some are free to join. There are also online dating sites you can join, some catering to men and women over 50.

Remember show your date that you are a confident, caring, proactive person with a good sense of humor who is also a good listener and interested in what the other person has to say.

BE PREPARED FOR LOVE

First, make sure that you have closure with any old relationships.

Be ready and willing to share all of who you are. Share the real you, warts and all.

Don't pretend to love football or the opera if you hate it. Things like that can be worked out anyway, just be honest about who you are and what you like.

Make space in your life so love can find a place. Don't be anxious about finding true love. It will come unexpectedly. Just be open to it.

 

 BE SEXY AND STILL BE SAVED....

If you are single and looking this sounds contrary, but it is true. You can be sexy. You have to set some ground rules for yourself.

Before you even begin to date you have to prepare yourself for the relationship you want. And just like shopping for groceries, never start dating if you're hungry. read more

Today, being Christian can seem like an Achilles' heel. Pastors and preachers constantly tell you to abstain from sex until marriage when it is almost unheard of in the sexual free for all culture we live in but it can be worth the wait.

You need to recognize that we are all sexual beings. But it doesn't have to mean you automatically throw in the towel and hop into bed together. Start by affirming your faith and making decisions about how you will handle situations. That way, if a potential hazard  like being alone together in a bedroom presents itself you already know how you will respond. 

Once you are married, everything is fair game within the confines of marriage as long as no one gets hurt or is uncomfortable. And waiting will make intense sexual desire for one another last a lot longer. 

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